Well it took it's time but finally the question of the mystery plant is settled
Yup ... almost a weed, poor goldenrod's reputation is ... but ? .. this is a tough spot in my garden.
Dry, bugs from hell (why they are so bad here I have no idea but they are!) ..
I have no tall plants in this exact spot .. standard maculatum Joe Pye is a bit further down.
So I may let it stay there as long as it doesn't become a pest ..
I wish I knew what the original plant was that I thought I was buying ?
Thank you to all of the bloggers that tried to identify it for me .. I appreciate the help !